To Wed or Not to Wed?

Article after article talks about the cancellation of wedding plans, cancellations of the wedding itself, and all the angst that goes with those decisions. Women who have planned and looked forward to this amazing day/weekend/week long celebration and have planned and scheduled and made decisions from site to canapés have every reason to be torn and aching about this virus and its ruination of their plans.

May I add just a word of hope?

My first husband was a pastor and college professor, a combination of jobs that brought him to the forefront of lots of weddings over the years. These years were during a time when the night before the wedding, after a rehearsal dinner, the groom and his friends would head for the bars, become roaring drunk, and sometimes arrive still hung over for an evening wedding. Knowing this, Rex would always offer this advice at the end of the rehearsal.

"It will be best if you all come tomorrow night sober and ready to support your friends on this very special occasion in their lives. If, however, anything happens, there are only three people necessary for this celebration to take place: the bride, the groom, and me to perform the ritual. We will be here. We hope you will be too."

So - to wed or not to wed? Is that really the question? Maybe the answer is yes, wed, because you are committed to each other and to being married and then, when you are once again able to gather in large groups, throw a big party.

Oh, I know, this is a simplistic answer to a complicated question. You have probably spent a lot of money already and if you can't work for a while, where will you find the money to throw another party? The hope I want to offer is that you can get married. It won't be the wedding of the century but it will accomplish what the big party is all about in the first place: the two of you are married.

Whatever your decision, may your life together be blessed ~